Thinking Activity : Views on Marriage

Hello Readers! 

Welcome to my blog. In this blog I have wrote people's opinions about Marriage. In the Novel 'Sense and Sensibility ' we can see the  marriage issue. Based on this novel we have task about that ask to  people about their opinion of Marriage. This task given by Dr. Hinama'am Zala professor of English department. 

Sense and Sensibility 

Sense and Sensibility, novel by Jane Austen that was published anonymously in three volumes in 1811 and that became a classic. The satirical, comic work offers a vivid depiction of 19th -century middle - class life as it follows the romantic relationship of Elinor and Marianne Dashwood .

Wiloughby literally sweeps Marianne Dashwood off her feet with their first acquaintance. He assists her home when Marianne falls and twists her ankle. In willoughby, Marianne discovers a man she admires for his dash. She comments"that is what a young man ought to be" in describing Wiloughby to others. In her naive fashion, Marianne does not recognize that a man of Wiloughby 's cut Must marry for money for loves his horses, society, and women. He is a landed gentleman living beyond his means. His behavior is a statement to the hereditary privileges granted men of his social class.

People's Opinion about Marriage :



Click below given link  for  listen Kalyani ma'am Vallath's views on Marriage. 

https://drive.google.com/file/d/1v3vhmdQRBB-SpfgNcQC8utcj-ww7GAg5/view?usp=drivesdk

It's how we make it to be. In India, marriage is just for the sake of sex and sacrifice and many other things. Reasons behind marrying are forceful, girl marries as to get backup economically and socially. We marry for sex, money, social status etc. When it comes to marriage, society says that a man should be earning good. When girl's family should also think about their girl's independence economically. Then money will not become forceful reason behind marriage. We can say becoming 18 or 21 of age is not the criteria of marrying. Our perspective towards marriage is not individual but here family marries to another family that is the main problem. If I don't like my fiance after engagement then I should think about my family's status and their feelings before saying no.One must marry when one wants to get married. 

In our culture we say "Chhokri jova joiye Che" ,it's must be an object for showcasing. We don't meet but see in arrange marriage. Family sees boy's income and status, on this base the marriage is confirmed. And one cannot even get a chance to have time with his/her for knowing. Logic is simple, without knowing someone how can you marry, and yes knowing someone can not make you to give a decision on marriage. We come into contact with many people, then it will become impossible to accept that person whom we even don't know or with whom we have not shared our feeling before. Marriage is beautiful journey when one wishes to get in..

         "From a teacher's lecture"
  ~ Alpa ponda 

It's good thing that you have life partner so you can share anything with him about anything and everything but just we have Gujarati kehvat ke hath ni panch anglio sarkhi nathi hoti this thing totally realt with marriage so sometimes you have different opinions and thoughts you both have different states of mind your upbringing and education are different so sometime it's problem also that they have sorry we both have some difficulty to explain or know each other we can't digest each others opinions right but it's just minor things right so it's my duty to tell my friend that every person are not like anybody right every person is different so we can't judge him or her on any particular reason or basis right so every one has his ways to make relationship successful and lots I have no idea about love marriage but I can tell you one thing ither it's love or arrange but still it's marriage right so you have to give some efforts to make it successful but every coin has two sides it depends on us that which side we want to See.

In our society it's big nonsense that marriage has to be in our cast in our religion right but it is workable or it is worth full ❓l think no it's absolutely wrong if the two who are in this marriage are not happy how can they make each other happy and how they can make their families happy right. But we all following this thing that boy and girl has to be in for same cast that our social status can't be ruined by this thing our boy or girl can not get married in other cast but in this situation boy can get through easily but girl can't it's about our so cold purushpradhan desh so partaliaty we can find in this field also .and in my opinion money and social status and socity are made by us right. we are not politicians that they can not give us vote for next election what we gonna do if they can not give us votes we are common people right we have some issues after this thing happened but we can solve it right.

                            ~ View by Urmi Joshi 

Marriage is just contract. If you read any county civil law you might understand that It is just formality to give permission to them those who are want to live together. Otherwise we don't required any formality. What we doing in marriage life?. Simple answer is that caring, responsibility, value, know each other etc. We can do all this things without marriage even many countries like England, Netherlands, France mostly people are interested to live in relationship without marriage. Even in India Many urban area , people are also going in to live in relationship Culture. So marriage is just contract and ritual. We just required attention, love and care in our life.

                                  ~Bhavnesh 

Ammmmm it depending on their mrg life.

But through my View its sweet candy. Which has sweet taste and also Causes of cough 😅

But it's amazing adventure to enjoy. 

It has anger, Quarrel, love, fun, care, smile, tear. But all that emotions have their own fun. 

U may fight or quarrel but at the end of the day it's end with perfect hug and beautiful smile.

The responsibility with love. His fever and ur care.

His gift and ur smile. 

His lunch and ur delicious dish. It's not only her cooking skill but emotions. 

So overall my Point of u marriage is most enjoyable Ocassion of entire life.

                                   ~Namsa Archana 

Nowadays when many norms and beliefs regarding marriage system are changing rapidly. As far as my opinion regarding marriage system is concerned, I am neither that staunch believer of this system nor believe in marrying only for the sake of other or for the society, so to speak. To marry someone isn't a wrong thing. But to marry someone only for the sake for marrying seems problemetic to me. If you find someone who understand you or trust you, there is no doubt in marrying that person. Along with it I guess, mutal understanding means a lot while you decide to marry someone. Though this marriage system is never problmetic to me, rigidity about marriage is problmetic. If someone don't want to marry, let them be the way he/she want instead of pressurising them to marry only for the sake of society.

Ok... I guess if two persons are truly love each other then there will be no reason to leave their partner for the sake of this so called status. But no one can neglect that it is the reality of our society. Lots of problmes are happing in our society for this so called  concept of status. And if someone have problme in their relation due to this I think there is some kind of lacking in their relation. If they truly understand each other, there isn't any chance for it.
                                 ~Minkal Italiya 

લગ્ન વિશે ના મારા મત જાણવું તો...લગ્ન એ દરેક સમાજ ની મૂળભૂત જરૂરિયાત છે .દરેક વ્યક્તિ લગ્ન કરીને પોતાનો વંશ ચલાવે છે.જોકે પહેલા ના સમય કરતાં આજે લગ્નનું સ્વરૂપ બદલાયું છે
પહેલા ના સમય માં માટે પિતા દ્વારા લગ્ન કરતા અને આજે સોશીયલ મીડિયા અને બીજા અનેક કારણો ને લીધે લવ merrag નું પ્રમાણ વધતું જાય છે.જોકે લવ મેરેજ કે arange મેરેજ કરવા એ મહત્વનું નથી પણ પણ બે વ્યક્તિ એક બીજા ને સમજે and જીવન ભર સાથ આપે એ જરૂરી છે.મારા મતે દરેક વ્યક્તિ ને લગ્ન કરવા જ જોઈએ .
આધુનિક યુગ માં સ્ત્રીઓ માં શિક્ષણ નું પ્રમાણ વધતું જાય છે એટલે મોટી ઉંમરે લગ્ન કરે છે પણ લગ્ન તો બે આત્મા નું જોડાણ છે અને ભાવો ભાવ નું બંધ ન છે.
આપડા શાસ્ત્ર માં પણ લગ્ન ને પવિત્ર સંસ્કાર માનવામાં આવે છે.

આજ ના યુગ માં સૌથી મોટી સમસ્યા એ જ છે કે છોકરો ચોકરી એક બીજા ને પ્રેમ તો કરે છે પણ પછી સમાજ શુ  કેશે અને ઘરના બધા માણસ. કયાય એવું વિચારીને કોઈ પણ એક ને છોડી દે છે અને સંબંધ પૂરો કરી નાખે છે.
કારણ ગમે તે હોય પણ આ બધા માં સૌથી વધારે તકલીફ એક છોકરી ને જ પડતી હોય છે.
સમાજ ના ડર થી છોકરો જીયારે એક છોકરી ને છોડી દે છે ત્યારે એની આખી જિંદગી બગડે છે.આવું જ હોય અને અને સમાજ નું જ વિચારવાનું હોય તો છોકરી નો હાથ પકડતા પેલા આ બધી વિચાર કરી લેવો જોઈએ.
અત્યારે સોશીયલ મીડિયા ના યુગ મા મોટા ભાગે છોકરો ને છોકરી લગ્ન માટે એક બીજા સાથે સંબંધ માં તો આવે છે પણ પછી છોકરો સમાજ કે પરિવાર ની બીક થી છોકરી ને છોડી દેતો હોય છે
મારા મત મુજબ સમાજ લવ મેરાગે ને સ્વીકારવું પડશે અને જે છોકરા આવી ભૂલ કરે છે અમને સજા મળવી જોઈએ.
                     ~Jayshreeba Gohil 




As per my view that marriage is one type of wedlock or system which made union or create holy relationship. After jont  through marriage system both characters remain to ready for fulfill desire, sacrifice, understood their habit or life.

I think arrange marriage is good because our parents have experience or they passed from that way so they never bad think about their children so they choose that types character for their children which may be appropriate into future for us.


Sometime in the love marriage people don't understand properly about love because there are minor differences between love and physical attraction so at the age of young normally  they choose character through physical attraction but not by love. After love marriage their completed ambition, they hate eachother because they don't understand what is love.
                          ~Lalji Baraiya 




*What is Marriage?*

According to me Marriage is the process by which two people make their relationship public, official, and permannent* (T&C apply)😅 because every marriage brings challenges, often profound ones.


*One should get married or not?*

As per my understanding you should only get married if you are absolutely sure that you can take responsibility for your own happiness as well as your partner's...

*How to decide who deserves you?*


one can be accepted as your better half only if your inner is craving for him/her and the same intense feeling is needed by his/her side too.
                                    ~Hina Chauhan



ભારતીય સંસ્કૃતિમાં લગ્ન એક સંસ્કાર માનવામાં આવે છે. જે દરેક વ્યક્તિએ તેમાંથી પસાર થવાનું હોય છે.
મારા મતે લગ્ન એટલે એક પવિત્ર સબંધ કે જેમાં મીઠાસ અને પ્રેમ, દુઃખ અને નવા અનુભવ તેમજ અનુકૂલન સાધવાની  વાત હોય છે. લગ્નજીવનમાં એક એવી વાત છે જે બંને વ્યક્તિએ સાથે રહીને હળીમળીને પુરી કરવાની જવાબદારી છે. દરેક બાબતમાં બે વાત રહેલ હોય છે, સુખ અને દુઃખ. પતી પત્નીએ બને પરિસ્થિતિમાં સાથ અને સહયોગ આપવો જોઈએ.

બધા કેહતા હોય છે કે લગ્ન પછી હેરાન થઈ ગયા... એ બાબત એક પણ ટકા સાચી નથી કેમકે એવા વ્યક્તિ હકીકતમાં સાચા અર્થમાં જવાબદારી સમજી શકતા નથી અથવા તો જવાબદારી ઉપાડવાની  ક્ષમતા નથી હોતી.

*લગ્ન એટલે મોજથી ખાવા માટે નો લાડવો પણ કેમ ખાવો તે પોતાની પર જ આધાર રાખે બીજા ના અનુભવ પર નહીં ...*
                    ~Virbhadrasinh M. Jadeja

~Vaidehi Ma'am Haryani 

  I have got many opinions of peoples about the marriage and marriage system and also many issues about marriage.

      Thank you....

Citation :

Jeffers, Regina. “The Character of Mr. Willoughby in Jane Austen's ‘Sense and Sensibility.’” Austen Authors, 5 Sept. 2018, austenauthors.net/the-character-of-mr-willoughby-in-jane-austens-sense-and-sensibility/.